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January 2, 2011
QUESTION: Hi Ian! You´re a really funny guy XD. I was just wondering how people see you because you used to be a woman!? Am kinda in the same boat I feel like a man but haven´t transitioned yet. And how is it in showbiz when you´re transgender want to become an actor in the United states, but it´s kinda hard since I live in sweden XD. Well anyway you´re a funny guy so keep up the good work kind regards Sam

ANSWER: Hello Samthanks for your message and compliments. I have no idea what it must be like in the entertainment industry in Sweden, but  for me here, showbiz has been really quite kind so far. I think people see me as a guy and hopefully a funny guy. But truly I don't really know what it is they see and I kind of don't care. I hope the ones I come in direct contact, have some interaction with, or have some kind of connection to, see me as a good human being. But the truth is you can never know what others see and you can't change it. I'm sure there will be some bumps in the road, that's the way it is with any career, not just in showbiz. I'm sure its not going incredible all the time, but it is whatever I make it. I believe the same will be true for you. It's all how you look at it and your own perception, which is the only thing you can control. Maybe its more important how we see ourselves... Anyhow, wishing you all the best Sam. Take care brother! Ian

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July 21, 2010
QUESTION: Hey Ian, Very funny stuff! You make an awesome man, too. And for someone who hasn't seen you since high school days, I find it especially fascinating, though it really explains that enthusiasm for the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Congratulations on all your success--I'm very happy for you. Will have to check out your show next time you perform in San Francisco. Let me know if you ever want photos of your teen years in Maine! David

ANSWER: Hey DavidI received your message, thank you. It's been a long time! Yes, I did and still do love RHPS! Please do send those photos to inquiries@ianharvie.com and I will be sure to get them. I would love to see them, that would be funny! I can post them on here ;) Thanks! xoxo Ian

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July 8, 2010
QUESTION: Ian we spoke on a talk show about your transgender. u said u had some more info. on the subject i wish to hear from you. Ruth

ANSWER:
Dear
Ruth, 

I did receive your email and tried to send you this message back but it bounced back to me. So I got your email but for some reason I cannot send back to you! So I am placing your answer here.

Thanks for listening and calling in today on the radio the show. If you would like to come to a show between tonight and Sunday night, let me know and I will put you on the list and you can bring a guest. If you would like some resources about other folks that feel like you do, you can check out these excellent sites:

 
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trans_man is a fairly decent definition of Trans Man there.
www.transbucket.com is an ongoing resource project that you can sign up for a private account.
www.ftmalliance.org - is a mailing list with events, resources, and discussions based in Los Angeles.
www.ftmi.org - they have a great resources section
www.tqnation.com & www.transqueernation.com Trans guys social network sites - great way to meet others and based in GA!!
www.sccatl.org this is a great conference to make friends, family and community and it's in GA!! www.brownsteinmd.com is my chest surgeon, who is in SF and is amazing, but there are other really good ones too. 

This ought to help get you started. Please let me know if you'd like to come to a show, there will be a lot of trans folks there you can meet too.  Cheers my friend!

XOXO Best, Ian

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June 20, 2010
QUESTION: What thought did you clung to when you were going through teenage hood?

ANSWER: It's hard to say what my thoughts were back then, seems so long ago and I drank far too much over my sexuality and gender to try and squelch those thoughts I had. It wasn't until I was much old that I found a thought and voice and a mantra that I seem to cling to more than any other, which was.. "everything is going to be alright". This is the thought at most difficult times that got me through, it was my faith statement, and yes, sometimes the thought I clung to in order to hold on through all the hard crap (especially for teens) that we as humans have to endure with each other. Everything's going to be alright, even when it feels like it's not going to be, it will. xoxo Ian

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June 17, 2010
QUESTION: I know Matt Alber wrote and performs the theme song for your talkshow. Is this available anywhere for download/purchase? I was so grabbed by the song ... And your show. You are such a great interviewer ... real enthusiasm and interest in your guests had me watching every online episode. Douglas

ANSWER: If you go to www.MattAlber.com you can learn more about where to buy stuff of his. He might be on iTunes or CD baby too. He has the voice of an angel. I love him. Thank you for your sweetness about the show. It was really fun to do. I loved it so much and wish that I could show it to the world, you know. Real conversations with real human beings for no reason at all. Fun times. Thanks again for the sweetness, Ian

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June 6, 2010
QUESTION: Confused here, was Ian born male or female? And is Ian into males or females? Danielle

ANSWER: Hey Danielle, check out this video, it kind of explains everything:
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May 20, 2010
QUESTION: Hey man...do you every come to Louisville to do shows? Victor

ANSWER: Hey Victor, I would love to play Louisville sometime soon, but it's hard to say when. I'm not sure where I would perform, comedy club or small theater? Where should I play there? I'd like to put it on my wish list, so if you send it to me I'll put it on my venue wish list. When I do play your city, I'' be sure to let you know when I'm coming. Much love, Ian

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May 14, 2010
QUESTION: Why is Proud FM your favourite radio station... is it Jonathan or Bob.

ANSWER: I'm totally torn between two lovers. I'm in an open relationship with Proud FM. Thanks so much for having me on you two, much gratitude! See you next time. XOXO

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January 9, 2010
QUESTION: Hey there.  I came across your site after seeing you on the Logo special about the OutLaugh Festival.  It was so cool to see Garrisson Starr on your show.  I went to college in Mississippi and used to go see her at Rick's Cafe Americain.  I'd lost track of her - good to see she's still making tunes.  Are you guys good friends?  Do you hang out and stuff?  Such a small world... Brian

ANSWER: I've known Garrison for a while now and she is a really good friend of mine. What an amazing talent. I'm a huge fan, since her album "Eighteen Over Me". Even smaller world, I was hanging with her in the recording studio in Burbank last night when she was helping produce my friend Margaret's (yes, Cho) new comedy music album. Which, by the way, Margaret's album is going to be (and already is) ahhhhmazing, funny and beautiful. So yes, it's a super small world.. all round. I will tell Garrison to read this entry! AND lastly, I love knowing other people out there that I don't know love G-Starr like do. XO to you, Ian

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January 3, 2010
QUESTION: Are you married or dating? Marta

ANSWER: Yes, I'm spoken for. ;)

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December 2, 2009
QUESTION: My name is Autumn, I am a lesbian in Ohio.  I enjoy your comedy, and a big fan.  I would like to ask was it hard to start your comedy career? Also how did you get started? Thank you for your time, and  have a good day!

ANSWER: Hey Autumn, thanks for being a fan, I always appreciate it when people say that. I'm also still a little surprised, that I have 'fans'. Let's see.. It really wasn't hard to get started in comedy; scary sure, but not hard. I kind of stumbled into it and had a lot of support from fellow comics who were all starting around the same I was. Plus, we were all learning how to write jokes around the same time, trying to get stage time around the same time, so we all became family, you know? So I had a tremendous amount of support that way. I'm not sure if that was what you were asking for or if your question was more geared to was it hard because I am Queer and Trans? If that's more what you meant; then no, it was not hard to get started, but since I'm no longer a beginner comic, I've gotten the feeling a few times that I was not given an opportunity or included or considered because I'm not mainstream enough. I think it will change over time and once I get to a place where I'm more well-known or have a larger fan base, then things might not be as limited. So, not hard to get into but maybe a little hard to sustain if your goal is to impact the masses, which I hope to do. Thanks for writing Autumn! Beautiful name, by the way. Happy holidays, XO Ian

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November 22, 2009
QUESTION: When are you coming back to Florida?!? I loved seeing you at the Improv opening for Margaret. On a side note, I teach college juniors and seniors. I use quotes from you all the time to help demolish their binary ideologies.  Thanks for being out, open, and honest about who you are! Korrie

ANSWER: Korrie, thank you for your message. I really had fun at that Improv show in Tampa/Ybor City, FL. You all were amazing there, definitely a memorable audience! Great and wild energy that night!  It's sweet that you're writing to me so long after the show; I'll take that as a good sign;) So yes, it has been a while and I'm not sure when I'll get back that way, but I promise to keep you posted here, on my site or on my Facebook page. Thank you for finding me and writing, it means a lot! XOXO Ian

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October 11, 2009
QUESTION: I apologize if I am way out of line here. Do you have a life partner now? And since you are Transgendered, would that partner be male or female? The reason for asking is as a gay man I find you extremely attractive and am very much interested in you. Again, I apologize if I have offended you with these statements. Update: I have read some of the other Q & A's and seen that you have a girlfriend. She is a lucky girl. Dave

ANSWER: Dave, I'm not offended [chuckling], I think it's a sweet gesture and a compliment that you're interested. But as I've mentioned (below), I am spoken for. But I think instead of answering with the same old "I'm taken" response and leaving it there; I think I'd like to try to explore/guess what might have happened, well, if not for you but maybe one of the others below.. I think what happens sometimes with folks who might have been in the audience listening to my stories, some of the rigid lines of sexuality and orientation were transcended and made more fluid than we once thought. Maybe this isn't at all related, but it just got me thinking about what may have inspired this kind of kind response from you. Or maybe it's more simple like what Margaret says.. "Ian's kind of a universal jack" ;) Thanks Dave.

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October 8, 2009
QUESTION: IAN! You were absolutely amazing here in Boulder Colorado... you are such a hottie! My friend and I were the chicks that worked at the crystal dragon and we saw you again at the gas station : ) I just wanted to say how awesome the show was and how incredibly brave and inspiring you are! I was wondering if you are doing any other shows in the near future here in Colorado or nearby? Brett

ANSWER: Yes, I remember you and your friend! Thanks for saying hello and remembering me. I don't know when I'll get to Boulder again, but Denver might be more easily done, not sure. Thank you for wanting me back ;) I appreciate it. I really loved Boulder and someone asked me recently what town/city I liked best on this tour and I said besides my home town of Portland, ME... most definitely Boulder! Very cool place you have there. I will be back near there sometime soon. If you want, I mentioned this to others below, if you want, either join my mailing list or just keep checking my schedule and I'll see you soon. Cheers for being sweet and supportive. XOXO to you both. Ian

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October 1, 2009
QUESTION: What is the meaning of life? Brett

ANSWER: Tear it down and build it back up the way you see it, even if it resembles it's previous form, it's yours now. Say YES to everything that has potential to change your life, for better or worse. Find a way to love yourself like no one else, then let it shine and give it away. And lots more that I don't have a clue about. If you find out more Brett, let me know! ;)

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September 23, 2009
QUESTION: No question but just a thank you for coming to Annapolis, Maryland with John Roberts and Margaret Cho on Monday, 21 September. It was a pleasure to see your performance. I will admit that you are cute but won't go any further as you have a girlfriend. You now have a new fan to add to your list of hundreds. Can't wait for your next visit to Maryland. Take care and be safe. Dwayne

ANSWER: Thank you! You guys were great there at the Ram's Head, what a sweet little club and town you have there. Thank you for finding me and leaving me a note. I'm always surprised and honored that people go home, log on and search, find and leave me a message, especially nice ones like yours. Much love for the support Dwayne! XOXO See you next time, Ian

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September 19, 2009
QUESTION: Hi Ian, my 16 year old son and I just saw you with Margaret Cho at The Orange Peel in Asheville. My son is curious to know 2 things. How old you are and what your birth name was. Loved the show! Kathy

ANSWER: I'm 41 and see the answer a few below this one about my name at birth. Thanks for loving the show. XOXO

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September 15, 2009
QUESTION: Got my picture taken with you tonight after the Knoxville show (you had a sandwich in hand). It was great meeting you and you're totally HOT. I bet you get that from all the gay boys. My favorite joke was "...how rude, didn't even mention my third hole" but I'm bad at messing up jokes when I repeat them. Could you please e-mail it to me so I can accurately tell my friends? please?! Tony

ANSWER: Hey Tony, yeah, I remember. I was soooo hungry after the show. Sorry about the sammich in your face. About the joke.. you got the joke allllmost right. The line is "he didn't even acknowledge my third hole... what a bitch." Now go tell your friends. See you next time in Knoxville. Much love Tony, Ian

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September 15, 2009
QUESTION: I was listening to an interview you did on the Fruit Salad show a while ago, and I have a couple of questions for you. First: I think it's so great, and so generous of you, that you have the energy and the patience to answer everyone's questions about being trans. My question, though, is: do you ever just get tired of it? I'm a queer/butch woman and I find that a lot of the time that's hard enough, that i can't be bothered educating the general public. i just want them to leave me alone and let me live my life. And question two: on the Fruit Salad show you mentioned that there are three questions people always ask you when they find out you're trans. Number one obviously is about your junk. But what are the other two? I can't figure it out. Erin

ANSWER: No, I actually don't get tired of doing the educating. I think because I'm a Gemini, I like the whole communication thing in all forms. I like trying to think of new ways to say things, ways that people can understand. Try to imagine myself in their shoes and then think of the language they need in order to wrap their head around something. Also I work it into my comedy so it's not so dreadful when done through humor. I like that what I do on stage feels subversive, people don't maybe realize what's happening, but it is.. they're being changed. I hope that doesn't come across as gross sounding. I think if you've seen my stuff then you'll know what I mean. BUT that's doesn't mean that I don't understand how it COULD be tiring for some, especially if that's not your thing and you're not a Gemini. Gemini's love that shit, well most of us do.. Anyhow, the 3 things I'm almost guaranteed to be asked once people know I'm Trans are usually not just 3, it's usually more:
1) Do you have a dick?
2) Are you going to get a dick?
3) Who do you fuck?
4) How do you fuck?
5) What was your name at birth?

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September 13, 2009
QUESTION: Hey. I saw you at Margaret Cho's show tonight in Nashville. I freaking loved your act. I have a very close friend In Olympia, WA who is transitioning right now and is thinking about having Dr Bernstein do his surgery and I assume that's who you went to when you said SF. I think you're an awesome role model. Not only for trans guys but for anyone who has ever disliked something about their body. I hope you continue to grow your act and one day soon be headlining your own show. I'd definitely come. Anyway. My friend's (current) name is ******* and her email is [removed] I'm sure he'd love to hear from you. Again. Loved the show. Can't wait to hear more from you. Michael

P.S. I was sitting next to the guy you addressed the question "has your dog ever eaten your cock" during the first show tonight, 9/12/09.

ANSWER: Thank you for the sweet message and I think it's sweet you are wanting to support your friend who is in Transition and hoping to connect us. My suggestion would be for you to have your friend write me on here and I won't publish it, but I will receive it and respond directly. That way your friend has the option to contact me if he chooses. You know..? So if he would like to chat as pals, or needs support, have him write me anytime. Thanks again for the nice message. Hope you and your friend in Washington are doing well! Give him lots of love and support, Trans people need it the most (for a little while) in this crazy messed up world. Thanks for being a friend to Trans folks! Love, Ian

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September 5, 2009
QUESTION: Allie and I LOVED the show! You're a delightful and talented comic. Thanks for a great night out! XX Evie

ANSWER: It meant a lot to me that you were there, thank you. I was proud to perform for you all in my home town. Much love and gratitude! XOXOXO Ian

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September 4, 2009
QUESTION: What was your name at birth? Aim

ANSWER: Janet. I know.. do I look like a Janet. Well, I kind of used to, but not anymore. I love who I was named after, I just never felt it, you know. Yeah, so there it is.. Janet. By the way, you can ask me that here, but other Trans people may not be so open to answer and might be upset with the question. So don't just go up to any Trans person and ask them such questions. For some people it's really a difficult and painful thing to discuss. Just saying, be thoughtful of people's history. Peace, Ian

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September 3, 2009
QUESTION: Hey Ian, dude you're awesomely funny and hilarious. I was wondering if you can come do a show in the NYC man. Like in the village. Alot of people would so come to see your show. Iite man, take care. Elsie

ANSWER: Elsie, tell me where in the Village I should do a show? I love coming to NY to perform and would love to. Send me your suggestions of where you think I should play. I'm open to suggestions. Hopefully we can work it out and I'll make you my street team to help get the word out. LOL. You asked for it! Kidding.. sort of. Maybe see you soon. Much love for the thought! XXO

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August 30, 2009
QUESTION: Hello Ian: I ran into you and your brother on the street last week in P-Town.  You handed me (I was the brown skinned guy) and one of my two other friends a card promoting your show and we talked a bit.  I had my camera with me and could have kicked myself afterwards that I did not take a photo with you.  You were so nice and extremely handsome. Steve

ANSWER: That's sweet Steve! Well, I'm not sure what to say.. maybe we'll be able to take a photo when I'm in your home town or a city near your home town next time I'm performing. Where are you located? Keep in touch, we'll get that photo! Thanks Steve for the sweet note. All the best, Ian

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August 28, 2009
QUESTION: Saw your show in P-town...lol thanks for harassing my friend and I to go. Thought it was great! Keep up the great work you're doing! Jason

ANSWER: Provincetown is interesting that you go out and really pound the pavement and basically brow-beat people into coming to your comedy show. That was new thing for me. I loved it and it was hard. Thanks for letting me convince you to come! You're sweet to take the time and find me on here to write to me to thank me for harassing you. I don't know if you can call it harassment if you're now writing to me. Don't you love P-Town! Wooohooo! Will I see you there next year? XOXO

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August 26, 2009
QUESTION: Hey Ian, listen I'll be at your show vixen this Friday, wouldn't miss it I love what you do, I am also a TG comedian, I haven't physically transitioned I still have breasticles!!! Ya buddy hope to chat with you maybe after your show, I'm big on throwing my name around and getting backstage or wherever to meet my like minded peeps. So don't be surprised if your people tell you some "JT Cotter" fool is asking for you sayin he knows you haha cause that's what I do. I hope we get a chance to meet each other. Love the name of your tour fuckin awesome cant wait to hear it. Your soon to be new tranz buddy. JT

ANSWER: Well, now that it's October and I know the outcome of this message. You all should know that JT is my new stalker. Hahahaha. No, actually he's my new bud. He came to two shows in Proivincetown, mine and then Margaret's with his lovely lady Adrienne. They drove a long way from CT to see the shows, then JT came to my recent show in Tucson from Phoenix. A dedicated new friend and funny guy, fellow Trans man comic - which is the first that I've met! So, nice to make a new friend, nice to meet another Trans comic out there. Cheers to you my new bud JT and to Adrienne. XXO Ian

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August 10, 2009
QUESTION: Hello cutie!! Jolie

ANSWER: Hi Jolie!

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July 29, 2009
QUESTION: Why and how is it that you are so cool and so good and kind and supportive of me?  I love you very much.  Luke

ANSWER: Awwe, that's because I love you Luke! When you taking that leap to the next right place? XOXO

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July 20, 2009
QUESTION: Loving your show, wondering what song plays during the opening? Keep it up, hope you come to Vancouver, BC soon! Daisy

ANSWER: The song that is the one that plays as my show's theme song? That is a song titled "Is Anyone Out There" by Matt Alber; one of LA's best kept secrets, a singer songwriter and a lovely human. Check him out online at www.mattalber.com Hope this helps. XOXO

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July 14, 2009
QUESTION: Are you single?  Do you date men?  Would you like to spend the rest of your life with me? Scott  :)

ANSWER: Hey Scott, You're sweet, it's been a long time since a man asked me that. Hahaha. Awwwe, sweetie, I'm spoken for. XO :) Ian

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July 10, 2009
QUESTION: Okay, okay, I just need to know whether or not you are using the fact that you cooked the roast beef ALL NIGHT in the oven when you worked for me as part of your routine?  I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!  (I actually just mentioned that fact to a new cook last week and thought of you).  I'm happy to see you're doing well.  Take care! You look quite handsome!  Love, Nancy

ANSWER: Awwwwe Hi Nancy! I'm so glad you found me on here! Hahaha! Love the roast beef reference. Sadly no, I've not yet brought that into my routine. For those of you reading, Nancy used to be my boss when I was like 18 or 19 in Brunswick, ME at my favorite deli and brunch place in Maine. I still dream of Eggs Alexis on Sundays. Yumm! For those who would like to know some history, I used to be half-assed Breakfast Cook and might have messed a few things up. But Nancy and Earl were awesome and patient owners and teachers. Love to you all back there at the deli. I bet your kids are all grown up now, eh? That was 22 years ago!! Wow! Well, I'm going to sleep tonight dreaming of smoking ovens with roast beef and lets be honest, I'll be dreaming of smoking weed in that basement. LOL! Peace Nancy! XOXO

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July 3, 2009
QUESTION: So... When are you coming to Toronto? Stef

ANSWER: Ooooh, you know what? Thanks for asking! I just wrote to someone today about trying to perform at the Gay and Lesbian Comedy Festival there "We're Funny That Way". I will let you know what happens with that. You are about the 3rd or 4th person to ask me that in the last couple weeks. So I hope I get to. Here's how to find out.. you could check my schedule or check theirs or hell, ask them if they'll have me. You can stay posted by joining my mailing list or just have a look at my schedule from time to time or follow me on Twitter. I usually talk about upcoming gigs with my tweets: http://www.twitter.com/ianharvie

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June 29, 2009
QUESTION: I am from Maine and now live in Boston. I saw you at Boston Pride.  Did you grow up in Maine?  If not, what brought you there and how do you feel living in Portland? I have many trans identified friends living in Portland, but have not yet been able to bring myself to live there out of fear of small-town mentality that is probably leftover from childhood. But I love Maine, and getting giggy with it on the pole at Styxx any given Saturday night or when the human disco ball comes out.  And love meeting people from Maine.  So I had to say hi and ask if you are native.  Because you know...maybe I know your cousin. Travis

ANSWER: I am from Maine too, born and raised. I've lived in Los Angeles for about 3 1/2 years and yes, I did perform in Boston then went up to Maine to visit family and friends there after. I do get back there pretty often. I have a lot of cousins from all sides of the tracks, shit we might even be related, wouldn't surprise me a bit. Also, I have totally worked that stripper pole at Styxx before. Good times. Nice to make your acquaintance. Thanks for finding me and writing! Cheers to you my fellow Mainiac and possible cousin. XOXO

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June 27, 2009
QUESTION: Are you back from Cardboard land for good? Did that itch get satisfied? We met at the Chocolate Church a couple of years ago. Also are you still X or have you chosen a different path? Hope you are well and happy. Best, Rena

ANSWER: Hey Rena, I'm not sure what you're talking about 'back from Cardboard land". This question was in June and I was visiting Maine in June from LA. Perhaps you thought I had moved back? If what I've pieced together here is correct, the answer is no, I'm not moving back to Maine. I love LA and all the people I've met here are amazing and beautiful and real. I avoid or rather, try not to attract the rest. As for if I identify still as X, yes. FTX, not necessarily FTM. X = something more masculine. Hope that helps. Cheers from Los Angeles. - Ian

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June 24, 2009
QUESTION: Will you go on a date with me? Kate

ANSWER: Awwwe, thanks Kate, but I'm spoken for. ;)

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June 23, 2009
QUESTION: Absolutely Enamored!!!!! Are you coming to Cleveland, Ohio ever?! Would love to see your comedy act! Denise

ANSWER: I will be coming to Cleveland, I just am not sure when. I will let you know when I am through my mailing list. If you'd like to be updated, not spammed. Sign up and I'll keep you posted. I love my Ohio fans and performed at Pride there last year.

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June 15, 2009
QUESTION: I just wanted to say thank you so much for your appearance at Boston Pride. You were the highlight of my day. As someone in the early stages of trying to navigate gender stuff your comments about bathrooms and body stuff really hit home, and made living in a gray area much more understandable. Please continue to use your analogy of women who gets breast implants and trans men and top surgery. As someone who had implants for a hormone disorder related issue and is now trying to have them removed and possibly have top surgery that analogy really hit home. I think it has the potential to bridge gaps between communities. Again thank you for providing this struggling gender queer butch with some hope. Maybe I can book you at my college soon! Sincerely, Chris

ANSWER: Coming soon.

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June 14, 2009
QUESTION:
Hey there.  Just hello. Remember me from Key West the restaurant 7Fish next to Janet? You look great and seem to be doing awesome. Remember our hair and product discussions?  Take care and good luck!!  [Jeff]

ANSWER: Hey Jeff! Of course I remember you! How are you? And yes I remember our conversation. I miss Key West, you (even though you're not there), and Steve and 7Fish!! I want to go back in time and chat and eat.

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May 24, 2009
QUESTION: I'm a gay man in Philadelphia. Would you PLEASE SIT ON MY FACE? Thanks! [Tim]

ANSWER: Ha ha ha! Why thank you, it's a really funny question and a generous offer, but no thank you. Still laughing here. :D XO - Ian

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April 30, 2009
QUESTION: I was wondering what u had lined up for the future project wise...i.e. album, tour, book, show etc etc...hehe? [Justice]

ANSWER: I'm working on MANologues right now and I'm super nervous about it because I have a show in New York in two days. It will be the first workshop show of many for this new show. It's a special project for me. I really want people to see it and love it. Basically what I've done is I have interviewed a bunch of Butches and Trans guys (and will continue to) about their experiences with their bodies. I've changed them into monologues and I will be performing them over the next six weeks, here in New York City and then back at home in Los Angeles. Hopefully the project will grow and morph into something really amazing. We'll see, maybe a book.
Meantime, I will keep doing standup, touring, writing new material and will keep you all posted on the dates of all of these things through my mailing list, which I see you signed up for. So thanks for asking and I'll keep you posted. All love, Ian

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April 27, 2009
QUESTION:
Are you touring to MINNESOTA anytime?? [Tavis]

ANSWER: Bummer, I was just in Minnesota a few weeks ago performing with Margaret at a Casino there, not far from Minneapolis. If you missed it, sorry, it was a super fun show. I'm sure I'll be back that way again soon. I do post all my dates on here and on MySpace if you want to check back from time to time. Sooo, see you next time? Until then, cheers. XO - Ian

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April 4, 2009
QUESTION:
I'm grew up in Maine, but now I live in Pittsburgh, and get sh*t regularly about the second 'r' I pronounce in the word 'drawing'. Do you pronounce it 'drawring', too, Super Cute Ian? [Jennifer]

ANSWER: You know, I tease myself about it more than anyone else does. When I hear my Maine accent I usually catch myself, then make fun of myself by mimicking what I just said. And I do say drawing similar to you, but mine is more trashy, like a TP (Trailer Park) version.. which is draw-rin. I just drop the 'g' all together. For example, used in a sentence: "Djew see that drawrin, that guy a wicked good ahtist. Djew see that?  I could never drawr like that."
I have to say I don't think my Maine accent comes out to play that often. If it does, it's usually intentional on my part. It's definitely not an every day occurrence and not many Californians notice it, not in LA anyway, they're all too busy looking Twittering. Umm and myself included.
Thanks for the question. :) Ian

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March 22, 2009
QUESTION: Its nice to see I'm not the only TG in New England :-) [K]

ANSWER: Hey there K! Yes, there are hundreds, if not thousands, of TG folks in New England and many of them get together socially. If I were in New England, I would say 'hey let's meet up!' But I live in Los Angeles now - not such an easy commute. but thanks for finding me and saying hello! If you are looking to connect with other TG folks in New England, there are many groups on Yahoo. All the best to you! XO - Ian

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March 6, 2009
QUESTION: Do you sleep with groupies in Pittsburgh ? [Bobby]

ANSWER: Ohh my! Well Bobby, thanks for the offer that one else has given on here before. But the answer is no, I have a deal with my girlfriend that I won't do that on the road or at home. Thanks for the thought though. XO (and not in a gay way ;0) - Ian

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February 6, 2009
QUESTION: First of all, I hope that I don't bother you. I love what you do, both as a comic and as a trans activist. I really like the fact that you see gender and sex as two very different things and i was wondering if you know MTF trans individuals who identify the same way as you, so like having a feminine gender but happy with their biological body...[Li]

ANSWER: Dear Li, You're not bothering me at all. I really like all the messages I get on here and enjoy answering them. Thanks for calling me a Trans Activist, that is an honorable title, I hope I live up to it. I forget sometimes that is what I am. I guess I know that I am and Activist, but sometimes I forget because because of the medium I'm delivering the message in is so subversive, I think..

Umm, lets see, your question.. I do know there are many people who feel the way you and I describe. Lots of MTFs and FTMs feel that way about their gender but don't elect to have surgery of any kind. I there is a continuum out there for everyone and we all fall somewhere different on that continuum with how we feel about our bodies, our sex, our gender, and the decisions we make (or not make) in order to feel okay in our own skin.

Also, if what you're asking me is: Do I know anyone personally that I can refer you to so you can have support and share? No, not necessarily anyone I can out safely on here. BUT there are groups on Yahoo, Facebook, and other social networking sites where people have similar ways of describing themselves as we do. Also, there are resources in metro communities at GLBTQ Centers that have great lists and contacts. Meanwhile, check out this site and I think there will be resources that will get you on the right trail: http://groups.yahoo.com/search?query=transgender  and http://www.genderbridge.org/resource.htm

I hope this helps with what you are looking for, drop me another note if not and I will try to help further if I can. Thank you for writing!
Good thoughts your way, no matter where you are!
XO - Ian

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February 6, 2009
QUESTION:
Do you dress up for Halloween? What did you go as last year? What was your favorite outfit? Can't wait to see you in concert in Pittsburgh on March 7. [Rob]

ANSWER: Hey Rob, that's my oldest brother's name, Rob. Thanks for your question.

Frig, you're going to think I'm so lame on this one but I have not dressed up for Halloween for decades of years. I think it's because when I was three or four years old my Mom stitched this amazingly detailed, jack-o-lantern outfit for me back in 1971 or 1972. The costume had a wire frame underneath to hold the fabric away from my body in a round, pumpkin-shape. But the problem was I HATED it and I didn't want to wear it. I cried the whole time I had it on! She took me and my brothers down to the Bridgton Town Hall (that's sooo New England) where there was a big costume party and contest for all the kids in town and she entered me in the contest, against my will! I won "cutest costume" in the contest, again, against my will, still crying - even when the local newspaper was lining us all up to snap a photograph of the winners. My Mom was so excited she bought several copies of that week's newspaper.

At my parents house right now, there are four or five copies of that newspaper clipping with a photo of me, the "cutest" jack-o-lantern you ever did see, with plastic green ivy in my hair as the stem, lined up next to Casper the Friendly Ghost, Dracula, and others; sobbing uncontrollably. In hindsight, the costume was really clever and cute, my Mom did an awesome job at creating it. But what I really wanted to be was a cowboy.

As an adult, I don't remember the last time I dressed up, but I'm thinking about digging up that old "jack-o-lantern" outfit to see if I can get it around just my head. I have noticed that a lot of people just dress like whores on Halloween, and I mean that in a good way. I love whores, but once everyone starts doing it, it kind of takes the excitement out of it. I'll try to be better about dressing up next Halloween, and I'm open to suggestions as to what you think I should be. I certainly have plenty of time to figure it out, it's fucking February!
XO to you Rob! Ian

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February 5, 2009
QUESTION: I am a new fan! You are so cute and so warm and funny! When can you come to Texas??? [Kaleena]

ANSWER: Awe, thank you. I'm sure I'll be around that way sometime soon, but Texas is enormous, maybe you could be a little more specific. But I'm sure I'll be in Texas. My dates on here and on MySpace are almost always up to date, so check there or join the mailing list, I send out notes from time to time on there to let people know where I'm going to be. Thanks for being a new fan! I really appreciate it and hope to see you in Texas!
Cheers to you, XO,  Ian

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February 4, 2009
QUESTION: You don't know me. And I found you by chance. I donít know English very well; so one of my friend translated my words to English. Youíre the person who escaped my all conflicts. But is it going meanly really good? But I think although all the problems, it mustn't be worse than the first. I want to make a decision like you and want you to help me about this. Because i need it too muchÖ Can you describe me about you, before and after your transition, feelings, problems, thoughts about this. And I hope that you can understand what I want you to help me. İ will be very grateful if you help me. İ am waiting your answersÖ. Being my own!.............Thank you for everythingÖ.Take care of. [Delidumrul]

ANSWER: Before I realized I felt this way about my body I feel like I was in constant search of something that I couldn't name. It was like being a Secret Agent on a mission but no one gave me my instructions. The first time I saw someone else who had what I wanted for myself, and saw they had found their language and found their path; that was when I saw myself and in turn I found thing I was searching for.

The first time I saw and met my first Trans guys friends, it moved me so much I began to cry. I kept looking at them with familiarity and envy, loving them and wanting to be like them all at the same time..

Then I was on a whole other mission, to find my own, individual path. I wanted to figure out what I wanted for myself without the influence of others. I didn't want the influence of family or other Trans guys. I needed support of those people but I need to hear my own voice and make my own decisions.

I had already been in therapy for years and loved it, so I knew that was the space where I would find my own voice about what I wanted for myself.

There were hurdles, telling my family and friends was scary, but they were loving and accepting. I realize this is not always the case, as many people are frightened and don't understand and cast their children, brothers, sisters, or friends away.

Sometimes I think it's been a long road and other times, I think it's all flown by so fast. I thought it would take forever to save for chest surgery, one of the things I knew I wanted when clearing my head and listening to what was inside of my heart. Once I put my mind to saving, it went rather quickly. Having surgery was one of the single most life changing experiences in my life to date. Not having a female-identified chest has freed me in a way that I only dreamed of feeling. Don't get me wrong, I am the same human being on the inside, my core is the same, before and after surgery and hormones, but I think that surgery (in particular) has had the biggest impact on me. I am free, more confident and more loving to myself. I used to have a voice in my head that used to tell me that no one would desire me with the way my body was before. I didn't want to be with me, so I wondered how could anyone else want to be. That voice inside me was instantly squelched after surgery. I still have that voice a little bit, about other things, but not as much and not as loud.

So I am the same human, hopefully a decent human, but more comfortable in my skin, more accepting of myself and my body, although, not perfect, it is soooo much better. Life was not bad before, I've never thought my life was 'bad', but it is certainly better than it was before I realized how I felt about myself, having found my voice, and making the decisions I've made. It was really good before, now it's really great. but that's probably easy for me to say, sitting where I am now.

No matter where you are in your process in your head or physical body, I wish you peace, inside, with your body and head, sex and gender. I wish you acceptance and love from family and friends and most of all, yourself.

Love yourself, like no one else.
XOXO, Ian

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December 20, 2009
QUESTION: Mmkay, I have a story, then I have a questionÖ
The story: In my high school, yes Iím still in high school, I take a class geared for people who want to pursue teaching as a profession after college. Our latest assignment was to educate the class about a person, famous or not, who we think is ìamazingly awesome beyond all reason of logicî (those are my teacherís words, not mine). I chose you. And I quite enjoyed describing you to a class of thirty straight peopleÖ Because I started out with the easy general stuff and then later went into, ìOh yeah, and heís a transmanÖî Which started a bit of a riot, and then I realized that they didnít really know what that meant. So I stood there for about ten minutes trying to explain it civilly, intellectually, and they still didnít get it. I ended up just degrading my speech to something like, ìOk, he was born as a chick, but is actually a dude.î It was a lot of fun, really, and I bet at least half of them went home and looked you up on YouTube. As one of about four out lesbians in my school, in Arkansas, I feel it is my job to at least try and make the straight people understand some things when I can. And I hope it doesnít completely weird you out that I used you for an exam grade.
My Question: It freaks people out when I tell them how young I was when I came out to my parents; I was fourteen. And Iíve been totally out at school since the beginning of this year. So I was curious, how old were you when you came out to your parents? And how old were you when you were completely out to everyone around you?
[Kasey]

ANSWER: Seriously, wow! What a great story and whaaaat? Effing ARKANSAS?! Whoah, you are so awesome and incredibly brave! I actually love that I was worked into your exam in some capacity and that you likely had some students with smoke coming out of their ears trying to wrap their heads around what you were explaining. I don't mind that you ended up boiling it down to "was born a chick, but is actually a dude". Sometimes I have to do the same thing, especially if I don't have time to really go through the whole thing with them. Just the other day someone I have met only a couple times came to my house and we were talking about dogs and I told him I used to have a Saint Bernard and I went to grab a photo from my room to show him. The photo was from several years ago and I clearly looked far different than I do today, but you could still tell it was me. I hesitated for a second and grabbed the photo anyway and brought it out to show this new person and right before I handed it over to him, I said "PS. I used to be a chick." Sometimes that's all I have energy or time for. So I understand the constraints of giving a talk in school and you only have so much time to say it. I think it's fine if done by someone in the queer community who is saying it with respect and maybe even using lei terms to help people understand, which kind of sounds like what you were doing.

To answer your questions, I was 18 and just finished my freshman year at Lasell Jr. College where I had fallen in love with my best friend there at school, Julie - that was when I figured out that I liked girls. It wasn't until I left college after that first year that I got honest with myself about how I felt. I think in hindsight, I knew 1986 wasn't a safe time for girls to like girls. I never went back to Lasell Jr. College (for women) - but not because of that - that's a whole other story. But I came out to my parents shortly after returning home from freshman year when newly 19. I remember what I said to them: "Mom, Dad, I like girls". I think it's fortuitous that I never called myself a lesbian when I told my parents or when describing myself to others. It wasn't until many years later, in my early 30s that I came out again and told them I wanted to be a dude.

But I knew I was different at a very early age, I just didn't have a language for it, no one I knew did either. It wasn't until I met others and saw them, and heard them describe themselves that I found a language for myself. Many Queers know and find a language for it very young, I don't think it's weird, it's awesome! However, it's not so awesome if people around you are not supportive, then you spend a lot of younger years being told by a lot of people, how you should be, instead of how you are. Some say it to you, while others with a look, and tell you you're not right in some way. So there are trade-offs for coming out early and for coming out later in life.

Sometimes I think kids, especially young ones (post toddler to preteen), know more about sexuality than many adults, because their insights have not yet bet twisted by the outside world. Family, religion and society has not yet taught a lot about fear, shame, and embarrassment about anything to do with their sexuality. So I think their insights and answers about how they identify themselves can be more clear and honest. It's not until later (preteen to adult) do children get bombarded with what and how they are supposed to be in the world. So it makes sense to me that some younger kids have an honest voice about themselves at earlier ages. Although it's likely hard in some ways, I think it's also a beautiful thing for kids to begin to understand their sexuality and in turn themselves, at early ages. It can help create smart and mature adults later on.

I'm rambling, it's now 2:30 a.m. on Wednesday. I need to go to bed but I really liked what you wrote, thank you for taking the time to tell me your story and for  your kind words, Kasey.

Oh yeah, you never told me your grade, do you care to share?
Much love, XO - Ian

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December 16, 2008
QUESTION: Any chance that all of the Dec 10 show will be available on YouTube (or similar)? I would have loved to come to that show, but Eugene is just too darned far from LA!! [Elaine]

ANSWER: Yes, the clips should be up before the end of the year. Please check back shortly: www.youtube.com/ianharvie for all of them.
XOXO - Ian

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December 10, 2008
QUESTION: Hey Ian! I'm a girl 28 years old from Switzerland! Tell me about Jorja Fox, how is she?!?!:-) I'm a big fan of her and saw that she will be on your show. I'm a lesbian and I really look up to you! I mean to go this way like you did that's really cool!!!:-) I'm very impressed!! My friends and parents know that I'm a lesbian and it's the better way to live with, otherwise they wouldn't know! Sorry for my English.. long ago I spoke English! :) [Meli]

ANSWER: Thanks for your message and your English seems great! About Jorja, honestly, she is amazing and super easy to love. She is extremely socially and environmentally conscious, and a really great human. She completely inspired me to try being a vegetarian, well, her and a couple others from a party at her house. I've had the pleasure of interviewing her before this most recent show, and since then we have become, well.. friends. I feel nervous saying that but I think she would say the same of me. Anyhow, you can get surely get a good vibe from the previous interview and a sense for what she's like. The clips can be found online at my www.youtube.com/ianharvie  account:

Part I: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOWDWpMjP3M
Part II: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0H3MjsMySo

Meanwhile, I will be posting clips from the most recent, star-studded NO ON H8! Benefit Show for Equality California, which Jorja is in. She shares a couple funny holidays stories. I will be posting those shortly.

Thanks for writing. Happy holidays!
XOXO - Ian

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December 4, 2008
QUESTION: Hey Ian, I was wondering it you had and cute sisters (or queer brothers) that you could hook me up with for this little shin-dig that is happening at SMCC in Maine on the 13th. I want a date that is as buff as you in the white tee shirt/chair pic. in your press kit. Damn, CA has done you well. Can you help a gurl out? Haha.. just kidding... It will be good to see you again! I'm happy the students voted to fund you're show here. Hooray! PS. You do know I will have to draw on your arm when you get here.
[Amy]

ANSWER: Haha! Hi Amy! Great to hear from you! For those of you reading this entry, Amy is a friend of mine from Maine that I haven't seen in a while. I will be going back there for the holidays to see family and friends and to do a show on December 13th at SMCC in South Portland.

I'm really excited about the show and seeing you, Amy. Amy draws (upon request) the most amazing vagina art on your body, like a temporary Bic pen tattoo. I've always chosen my forearm for her art to live temporarily. One late night in Portland at a local queer club she drew one of her pieces on my forearm. I went home later that night, went to bed, got up the next morning and for a moment I forgot that she had drawn on me. So when I woke up I rubbed my eyes and caught the piece out of one blurry eye and was like 'what the..' just for a second, then I remembered. They say every artist incorporates themselves into their art, I wonder if that is true for Amy. :) Also that same morning when I woke up with the temporary arm piece, I went into the bathroom and saw the drawing was also on my face. Since I'm not a drinker - not even a drop, I figured it out pretty quickly that I must have slept with the side of my face pressed on my arm at some point during the night because when I woke up that morning, there was a vagina on my face too. Good times trying to wash that off. I walked around with a faded vag on my face that day. Glad you wrote, Amy. See you and your pen in Portland, maybe this time you could just draw it directly on my face.

To respond to the first part of your email, I do have two bio-guy brothers, one is queer, but he is the kind of queer that seems to be into dick, so it's likely you are not each other's type. ;( I'll keep my eyes open for a date for you on the 13th! It will be good to see you! Thank you and SMCC for having me!

XOXO - Ian

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November 23, 2008
QUESTION: My wife and I saw you last night in Reno. When you came on the stage she poked me and said he's transgendered. I was looking around me for someone who looked trans and she said, 'on the stage'. I like to think I'm pretty savvy, but you look amazing, I was clueless. River saw you in South Lake Tahoe a year ago so that's how she knew. You were hysterical. I laughed out loud many times, and I loved it! We were out on a walk tonight and we were talking about the show. I said that I was so glad that you are doing what you do. It is so courageous just to be yourself sometimes. You do it with abandon. I admire you for that. What is so great is how you get everyone to relate with you. It seemed that everyone in that room was connecting with you and your story. You rock! Not only do you bless us with laughter, but you expand our realities with your candor and wit. Ok, a question. Do you feel that connection? Do you comprehend the good that you are doing with your story? Big hugs!
[Suz]

ANSWER: It's hard to find the proper words to respond to your amazing and kind email. I'm glad you came to the show in Reno. That show was the last one in Margaret's Beautiful tour that began last winter in Australia. How lucky am I that I have traveled around with Margaret, doing what we do.

I think it's important to mention, for me, each show is a gift and a privilege. I am thankful for every moment of every show that I get to perform, making people laugh, hopefully educating without shoving anything down anyone's throats, maybe helping people feel a little bit better in their own skin through power of example, maybe a sense of belonging and family.

I believe there's a sort of synchronicity thing that happens between all of us, when we all let down our guards and become our most authentic selves, share a laugh. I don't know how to measure it's impact, if it has ripples or if it's singular, there isn't really a scale per se. But maybe it can be quantified by how good it feels when it happens? I'm guessing, by your note, that maybe we all left a piece of ourselves in the room last night, a true connection.

So yes, I feel the connection and I'm so grateful for it and for your note. I hope that I get to keep doing this for a long time.

Love you, mean it.
Gratitude,
Ian

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November 17, 2008
QUESTION: Gosh, you are DREAMY. What's your favourite kind of cheese? I like Swiss. Keep up the good work! From a chilly Canadian fan.
[Nicole]

ANSWER: Aww, thanks Nicole. I don't know if I'm "dreamy" but that's a super sweet thing to write. Your question is really great and important because I love CHEEEEEESE!

I don't think I can settle on one particular kind of cheese, they're all so freaking good. So I'll be glad to share with you a few of the ones I LOVE. The first that comes to mind is traditional Swiss cheese in fondue! It may not be the most exotic type if cheese but I think it's one of the best because it's a communal and social event with cheese as the guest of honor. Yay!

I love really smelly cheeses too, especially Bleu Cheese, the more blue veins the better. I used to have a friend whose family had traditional cocktail hour almost every afternoon with cheese, fruit, nuts, and drinks. Sometimes my friend and I would go for the cheese, her family always had some really stinky Bleu Cheese on display on a wooden sectional tray and tiny cheese knives with fancy ceramic handles.

But the cheese I like to pick up when I'm shopping is an Italian cheese made from sheep's milk, called Pecorino. It's a hard, salty cheese that I like to slice super thin and let the pieces sit on my tongue to let it soften, then chew and swallow.

Reading my response now, I feel like I may have gotten a little pornographic about cheese at the end there. So maybe Pecorino IS my favorite cheese? Mmmmm.. thanks for asking.

;) - Ian

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November 12, 2008
QUESTION: I don't really have a question. I've a statement. You, my friend, are beautiful. Be well.
[Paige]

ANSWER: Thank you, Paige. I appreciate the super sweet note! XOXO - Ian

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October 25, 2008
QUESTION: I saw you on the "Beautiful" tour last night in Palm Desert. My wonderful wifie took me to see you. Oct 24 was my 27th birthday and you two made it fantastic! So thank you! But... you really made me wonder, did they do a good job making smaller nipples. Mine are about the size of IHOP lol, and going from IHOP to nickles is just amazing to me. Oh and my partner and I would gladly pinch your nipple sensation back..... you can't live with out it. Again, thanks, the show was great!
[Brandise]

ANSWER: Hey happy birthday to you! Thank you for finding me on here. Let's see.. about those nipples. There are amazing surgeons out there who do incredible work. I'm sure if you wanted to you could find a great doctor and talk to them about a procedure that was strictly about making smaller areolas for you, if that is truly what you want and would make you feel better in your head about them.

It took me years to decide for sure that chest reconstructive surgery was something that I wanted because I knew that it would be irreversible. There are many things that you can't change back once they're done. So I knew I had to be certain of what I wanted.

I would guess that depending on where you live and what kinds of doctors you have access to, like in Southern California, Beverly Hills, etc. there are many amazing plastic surgeons. You could likely get something like that done.

I do have to say that my surgeon, Dr, Michael Brownstein, M.D. in San Francisco, CA did such an amazing job on my new antique button sized nipples. I am so proud, happy and naked all the time now. I realize we're talking about different procedures here but it's really changed my life for the better. If you think about it and you're sure it would make your head feel better, then find someone who is an excellent artist and surgeon, it's worth the money.

Thank you for the offer on pinching my nipples back to sensation, you two are so sweet. I will let you know when I'm ready for that procedure. :o

Thanks for writing! Big squeeze, XO - Ian

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October 25, 2008
QUESTION:
I am in Palm Springs visiting family and they took me to see Margaret Cho, you opened the show which I really enjoyed. Your humor is real and it made me laugh out loud. Thank you, and looking forward to seeing you again. Are there any pictures of you before? Not to invade you privacy, I am curious what you looked like as a woman. [Henry]

ANSWER: Thank you for coming to the show and for the kind words. Just for future reference when you meet other Transgendered folks, not everyone is okay with showing photos of themselves from their 'previous life'. Some people are very private about it and for some they feel it's disrespectful to ask. But everyone (Trans) has different feelings about how much they are okay with sharing from their past.

I do not represent anyone but myself when I say that I am completely okay with people seeing photos of me before chest surgery and hormones. I believe that part of my life [pre-surgery and pre-hormones] is/was part of my journey. I really try to not move through this life without any regret about any moment or about how I looked or feelings of discomfort. It was all part of the ride to get here, where I am now. Without one of those moments or days, I may not be here, now, where I am today. Without one of those moments, my course may have been wildly different. I am grateful for every difficult moment AND every joyous one that brought me to this moment, here, now, today. I love today.

Having said this, feel free to peruse the images on my myspace page at www.myspace.com/ianharvie, there are plenty in there that are of me pre-surgery and pre-hormones. But if you want one photo from a super long time ago, check this one out. It was one of my last attempts at being a girl, I was 23, in all masculine clothes, trying to grow my hair out for my mother. She never asked me to, I just thought this is what she would want. Not long after this photo was taken, I shaved my head bald and never looked back. Since then, my hair has never been longer than a couple of inches. But looking at this photo of myself, I just think, God, I was so young and knew very little about myself then.

It's been a long beautiful, enlightening road.
Cheers, XO - Ian

 


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